Marriage and Happiness Essay
Title: Everyday happiness is sharing commitments
Have you ever wondered where love disappears after marriage? And why it does? What happens to it after two loving hearts united themselves in the bonds of matrimony? Probably, many different specialists - psychologists, sociologists, medical doctors, public servants, teachers and others will give you different answers. It may happen that all those answers will be correct. Let us consider several causes of such “light-minded” and stubborn behaviour of love - it does not want to be stored on the dusty shelves or dark corners of a family unit. Crucial challenges and changes in the modern society have affected the reasons for marriages and the challenges families face in the course of the past few decades - they have modified the traditional view on family and married life and are even threatening the existence of the institute of formal marriage thus generating special needs for strengthening the family.
Reasons for creating a family can strongly influence its well-being, unity and moral atmosphere. For example, marriage for getting independence from parents may result in loosening bonds, since after a short period of time the couple realizes that, firstly, real independence was not gained (and possibly is very unreal at all) and, secondly, the reason for such marriage was only temporary and not powerful enough to keep two different people together.
Likewise, marriage for financial reasons can turn out to be a disaster since money and riches are disappearing even sooner than love. Moreover, day-to-day survival of a couple shows that family cannot be considered as an enterprise or a successful financial investment. It simply does not work that way and does not obey the same laws as business. In addition, financial inequality of spouses in the beginning may lead to deep misunderstandings and disrespect. Instead, more and more people will find the solution of their financial problems and satisfaction of their material aspirations outside of marriage much more successfully.
Marriage because of love is one of the most widely spread reasons for creating a family. A man and a woman feel deep attraction to each other and want to get together for good. However, sometimes they do not realize that those emotions of infatuation and sexual desires are just a very strong prelude of a deeper feeling that can be born later and only in marriage. So they are expecting that those nice moments of mutual intimacy and adoration will follow them automatically through cruel routine and turmoil of housekeeping, financial problems, illnesses, family relationship, child-bearing, etc. When they do not recognize their beloved ones who turned into grungy husbands and grumpy wives they say that love has disappeared and their marriage was a big mistake. As a result many people will look for love outside of marriage, which is a threatening factor by itself.
Overall, only optimum combination of factors analyzed could guarantee the happiness in family life. For traditional family faced numerous changes over the recent decades, modern family does not follow purely conventional attitudes any longer. Neither does financial success guarantee internal closeness of two people united by family bonds. Therefore, love and mutual respect should be rationally combined with daily commitments